In my world the weather has been hotter than normal. It seems as though everyone and their brother is celebrating this rapid transition from winter to immediate summer, and I’m feeling outnumbered. Don’t get me wrong, I can take the heat. I’m a redhead, and we’re known for being fiery after all. No, I just don’t like skipping spring. Spring has a purpose and I was looking forward to savoring all its good, slow-to-nurture stuff. But here it is…Wham! Bam! Way too many people are in a trance with this summer-like, feel-good-right-now weather. But come July, mark my words, you’ll be missing spring.
And this got me to thinking about all the times women tend to jump the shark in relationships (if you’re not familiar with the jumping the shark term, Google it and you’ll find The Fonz…historically, I would argue, a great Sunday Boyfriend). You know, mistaking a current relationship for “the one” because it feels good right now; just how the summer-like sunshine feels good right now. And let me say right here: there is nothing wrong with feeling good right now. Been there. Done that. But the mistake too often made is forgetting to check in with what is good for you in the long run and staying with something, someone too long because it feels good right now. Just like forgetting spring’s purpose and jumping ahead to summer when feeling that toasty sunshine for the first time in late winter, forgetting to check in with who you are and what you want in this life can be just as damaging. You need to remember it’s still winter, and the cold can come back in a heartbeat. Forgetting this hurts not only those buds on the trees, but your own growth as well.
And this is where I want you to think of Sunday Boyfriends as relationships on your terms, relationships with a purpose. Okay, don’t start confusing what I’m saying here. I’m not saying Sunday Boyfriends have to be serious relationships. No. I’m saying there is a purpose to every Sunday Boyfriend relationship…and that purpose is in your control and yours to define. I’m hoping the thought of that warmed you up a little bit.
And why shouldn’t it? Life is hard enough without beating ourselves up for not going after the things we want. Or thinking we shouldn’t try because that’s not what “good girls” do. We are all good girls. Let me say this again…we are all good girls. And that’s what Sunday Boyfriend represents, feeling confident in not only what you want, but also in celebrating your courage for going after it in the first place. Sunday Boyfriend is pro-girl power.
And not to sound Clintonesque, but you do know there are several definitions for “it,” don’t you? The “it” you’re going for? Yep. There are. “It” could be asking that cute guy you’ve been flirting with at the coffee shop on a date. “It” could be calling your Sunday Boyfriend on a Tuesday to meet for a cocktail. “It” could be ending a relationship because it’s just not giving you everything you need, or you’re not giving everything you can. Your “it” is unique to you, but the common thread is being strong enough to own “it.”
So “it” does have a purpose. Find out everything you can about “it.” But remember to be fair to yourself and not jump ahead too quickly…you don’t want to miss savoring one little minute. Trust me….the sunshine that comes when it’s supposed to is better than any flash in the pan warmth.
As always, remember to be good to yourself, your Sunday Boyfriends, and stay comfy.
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