Dear Nikol, I’ve recently heard somewhere that males have a secret G-spot as well. Is there any truth to this or is this just another urban legend? If true, how does it work and how would you recommend I bring it up to my girlfriend? Signed, This better be effin true. Dear TBBET, It’s totally […]
I’ve recently heard somewhere that males have a secret G-spot as well. Is there any truth to this or is this just another urban legend? If true, how does it work and how would you recommend I bring it up to my girlfriend?
This better be effin true.
It’s totally effin true, but you know it as the prostate gland. So, it’s not new information.
For those of you who don’t know what the hell I’m talking about, deep in the butt of every man is a gland that, when stimulated properly, will enhance an orgasm. (Well, okay, it’s not in the butt. That’s just the route you take to poke at it.) In a common physical, when a doctor is sticking his or her finger in the guy’s anus, they are feeling this gland to make sure it is not inflamed or irregular, since a health risk for men is prostate cancer.
Your prostate gland is fairly useful biologically. It produces fluid that makes up some of what shoots out of you when you have an orgasm. That fluid helps the semen survive the treacherous conditions of a vagina. It also stops you from peeing while you ejaculate. It does nice things for you, so you may want to do something nice for it every once in a while?
You can certainly stimulate it yourself, using your own fingers or a toy (don’t use a jar, please) and this is a good idea so you can figure out where it’s at and how much you like it. Next time you’re masturbating, get some lube on your clean finger and poke around. (Make sure your fingernails aren’t jagged.) If magic happens, good for you.
As for how to ask your girlfriend to help you out, you will have to figure out how the two of you communicate about things like this. If you talk openly about trying new things, you just let her know you’d like to give it a shot. It might be most comfortable for her to do it while she is giving a blow job or laying behind you in bed while you masturbate.
If the two of you tend to communicate in the exact moment of sex, you can try guiding her hand, making it clear either through moans or words that you want her finger in your butt. Just make sure you two talk about it after so that she understands why you enjoyed what she was doing. We’re taught at a fairly young age that men who want stuff in their butts are gay homosexuals. Not true, but she may be operating under that illusion.
There you have it. On behalf of your prostate and its health, happy massaging.
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