We’ve all heard the saying, “you have to lose yourself to find yourself.” I never understood what that really meant, because in my early twenties I thought I knew exactly what I wanted and where I was going: the world of beauty and fashion. That world took over most of my thoughts and I spent nearly all of my time devoted to it.
As a salon hairstylist at Carenza, in Brookfield, I had such pride when my clients came to me in search of new trends. I gave them my tips, we shared secrets, and they made my life full. I also worked at a clothing boutique called Next Door and went to market and helped buy the newest trends to be sold at the store. I hosted fashion shows, directed events, and felt like I had a good idea of what was going on with all things fashion.
Then the little niche I had carved out so confidently in my life was tipped upside down. In July, 2014, I left everything I had built here in Milwaukee and signed my career over to Ford Models (Chicago) as a hair and makeup artist. I left the comfort of my salon and began working on sets for advertising, TV, concerts, and more. And boy, did it start out with a bang.
I hit the ground running; it was the most exciting thing I could have imagined. The people I met and the stories they told took my breath away. I worked with models and celebrities that were so beautiful I was sometimes nervous to look at them.
While my new career had welcomed me with open arms, I soon began to see myself with a different perspective. I realized I didn’t know anything about what I was preaching with beauty and fashion. I knew very little of the designers and their lines. I also didn’t know much about the hair and makeup artists who were creating the trends. I was just another follower of mainstream media and I was singing the same song as a thousand other bloggers and writers. So I decided to disappear. I removed myself from social media (mostly) and stopped attending parties and events.
Then I watched. I watched the wardrobe stylists fit clothing correctly to our models. I watched real makeup artists backstage at New York Fashion Week and saw the difference between skin and beautiful skin. I went through the kits of artists that I looked up to and asked questions, absorbing anything I could.
The music industry fascinated me. I followed an artist around Lollapalooza as her hair stylist and felt the energy of the crowds. I walked down the street with a magnificent rising performer, watched traffic stop, and saw people’s shocked faces as they realized who it was. I made sure not just to consume myself with the new, though, because in my hotel room on the road I would read about the past. I learned who created what, and heck, I didn’t even know what the real Studio 54 was!
While I still have so much to learn, I know that I am a better writer with these experiences behind me. I strive to stay genuine, and relevant, because let’s face it: we aren’t all models in the bloom of our youth.
But enough about me. I have to end this with something that will enrich your beauty routine. Let’s talk about our skin: it’s gross right now because winter is mean to us.
I have normal-combination skin. Rarely was it break-out free. So I read up on the benefits of using Retinol and started using Roc’s Retinol cream. You can get it at Target. My break-outs are gone, and my skin suddenly has a glow I’ve never had before. I had to play around with it to find out what worked best for me, because it can be a little drying, and it’s also bad to wear in the sun. In the end, I opted for the Roc Retinol Deep Wrinkle night cream.
Wearing it at night solved the problem of being in the sun (you can burn easily). And during the day, I wear a nice day cream without retinol, and I am sure to use an eye cream as well. Just an FYI: at the beginning using Roc my skin was a little peel-y. It only lasted about a week, though. Depending on your skin type you might need to play around with the day/night creams to find out what’s right for you. It really did change everything for me, I don’t feel like I need to wear foundation (makeup) any more when it’s just a regular work day. True story.
Let me know if your results are similar!