Dear Nikol,
My long distance boyfriend and I trade naughty pictures of ourselves so we can have something to look at when we have cyber sex. Recently he asked me to send him a picture of myself peeing. I don’t mind and I’ll try to do it, but I’m wondering how into water sports this guy is. Does he want to just watch? Does he want me to drink pee? Does he want me to pee in his mouth? Also, if he is into water sports does that mean he is into scat, too? I have never tried either one, and while the idea of peeing on someone or getting peed on might be something I’ll try, there is no way at all I want to poop on a glass table or anything like that. I am worried that he will be way into this stuff and I won’t and so he’ll go find someone who is.
– Wet My Pants
Dear WMP,
Where to begin with this one? There is so much going on in your question! Okay, let’s start with simple explanations of terms. Water sports refers to liking to involve urine in a sexual experience in some way. Scat refers to liking to involve poop in a sexual experience in some way. Since sexuality and the human brain are so complex, the extremes of both of these kinks range from person to person.
To assume that one who enjoys water sports also enjoys scat would be as logical as saying that someone who likes hospital dramas on television must also like reality programming. It might be the case for some, but it is not a hard, fast rule. Both types of shows suck, and both types of activities involve bodily waste. But pee, dear friend, is nothing like poop. Urine is sterile, easier to clean, and 100 percent of the time is liquid. I’m not saying you should go for the gold and drink all the pee you can, or anything. Because that it completely up to you.
And that brings me to this whole nutso, “How do I ask him and what if he doesn’t like me anymore” business. There’s an old saying: “If you love something, and it asks you drink its pee, but you don’t want to so it goes out and pees in someone else’s mouth, set it free. If it returns, set it on fire.”
Listen, so far the guy just asked you for a picture of pee coming out of you. Stop being a wimp and just ask him how into this stuff he is. You won’t be able to figure out how much you are willing to try until you know what he likes. And even then, if you are totally grossed out by the thought of a thing, don’t do it. And if you try something with him and it does nothing for you, don’t do it. If the two of you have a chance to have any sort of loving, healthy relationship, you’ll both be interested in the other’s comfort. Even if you want to try something because he loves it, if you try it and hate it he should have the strong desire to never do it again.
And it’s not always true that people will have to go elsewhere to have their needs met. You sound like you’re pretty open minded, so there are many other things the two of you can do that will keep you both satisfied.
– Nikol
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