Dear Nikol,
I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month and a half and he’s awesome. Problem is, he sometimes gets off up to 3 times while I get nothing. I know that’s normal, but lately I’ve been feeling discomfort in my lower region, like I NEED more sex. It’s weird, like a sore feeling down by my ovary area. He’s obviously done so I can’t really ask for more. So, yeah, what is that pain/discomfort I’m feeling?
– Pain in the Ovaries
Dear Pain in the Ovaries,
In order to be a responsible person I have to tell you first that you should see your doctor about the pain. Get a pelvic exam just to make sure you don’t have something whacky going on with your girl stuff. But…
Sounds like female blue balls. We should have a name for that. Let’s call it Purple Balls. Or something cute like Fairy Princess Disorder. Basically you are getting worked up close to the point of having an orgasm, then he stops. And your body is already right there, ready to make some magic. Guys talk about this problem frequently and have even used it as a way to convince a girl to keep going to avoid the discomfort. But like you said, once your boyfriend is done, he’s done. Or is he?
If your dude is all finished and you aren’t, he can help finish you off. I’m assuming his fingers and mouth are both in working order. Or you could invest in a toy (like a vibrator) and he could help you use it. Or you could finish yourself off. The point is, you have options. And like I have said before, if the two of you are comfortable enough to have sex you should also be comfortable enough to talk to each other about sex. He should be willing to make you happy in the sack, too.
So go see your doctor and if everything is clear, start the fun process of figuring out a cure for your Fairy Princess Disorder.
– Nikol
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